16 Oct Failed Interventions: I Don’t Want Your Help!
When we watch professional interventionists like Dr. Drew on television, he often gets people to go to rehab. However, what happens if your situation doesn’t turn out like this. What do you do? What if your loved one says, “No, I am not going to rehab” and walks out of the intervention?
Here are a few tips for you to keep in mind with dealing with an alcohol/drug addict in your family. For starters, tell them that you are still going to stick with what you wrote in your letter to them. Tell them that you are not going to put up with any more. Tell your loved one that you will not be giving them anymore money. Let them know that the days of enabling are over. You must stay firm and not give in. The only way to get the addicts attention is to be serious and firm.
Do not give up! Just because the intervention did not go over well, does not mean that you cannot have another one. Sometimes, the interventionist is not as skilled as someone else. Before hiring an interventionist, make sure that you get their entire background. Often, interventionists with 10 or more years’ experience will do a better job for you because they have done this many times. Ask them if they ever had a failed intervention and what they would do differently now.
A lot of times, your loved one needs to know how serious you are. If you have been enabling them for years and they don’t believe you, then you must reinstate your position. You must show them with action that you are not the same person as you used to be.
Many parents tell their children that they are not going to give them any more money. However, when their child says, “Mom I need $20.00 for pizza”, the parent goes ahead and gives it to them. You must cut all financial aid to them. Without money, people usually decide to go into treatment at some point. Remember, enabling an addict only makes them seek out treatment less.
Drug and alcohol treatment centers know that getting someone into treatment takes time. It is not a 1, 2, 3 thing that most people would like to have happen. A good intervention can take weeks to plan and put together.
You must also tell the addicts other loved ones not to enable them anymore. Explain to them that their life is on the line. If they don’t get help soon, they could die. This is the fact that many families are facing today.