13 Oct How to Deal with Your Daddy Issues During Drug/Alcohol Rehab
When you enter into a 30 day inpatient drug/alcohol treatment facility, you may find your daddy issues arising out of your spirit during counseling. You may feel like the pain inside of your heart relates to an absentee father in your life. Many men and women today grew up without a father. Some had a father in the home, but felt mistreated and neglected as well. Many people in rehab refer to this as having “daddy issues”. There is nothing wrong about having daddy issues. A parent is supposed to make you feel loved, protected and cared for growing up. If you missed out on this, you may indeed be suffering. Believe it or not, it can be the root cause of why you are taking drugs or drinking alcohol to begin with.
Often, human beings fail to forget about a parent that abandoned them or hurt them in some way. As children, we are taught to obey our parents and not talk back to them. Often, children do not know how to express their emotions. If they feel like their father was not there for them, they usually fail to tell their father how they feel. If someone feels like they are not cared for by a parent, they often turn to drugs and alcohol to absorb this pain.
When you are in a 30 day inpatient program, you are assigned a therapist. Your therapist will often make you talk about what is troubling you. At first, you may feel ashamed and embarrassed to talk about your emotions. Perhaps you think that you should not even have these “daddy issues” anymore because you are now in your 20’s, 30’s and even 40’s. However, your feelings are unique and you have the right to feel what comes out of your heart naturally.
In some cases, clients tell their therapists that they were abused by their father in some way, shape or form. Often, bringing this shame to the surface allows the hurt to come out. Once you realize that it was not your fault, you begin to realize that you are worthy to be loved.
It takes time to dig into the roots of your relationship with your father. You need to express your thoughts, feelings and emotions with your therapist. Let your therapist know what is really troubling you. Often, people feel embarrassed to talk about their real feelings in therapy. However, once you express your emotions, you begin to understand that it is okay to express yourself.
After rehab, you may find that confronting your father about how you really feel will help you to heal as well. It is usually uncomfortable for a parent to hear about your painful memories. Some parents will not even acknowledge what you are saying is true. If you can find any healing by talking to your father, it is a good thing. You may not get the response that you are looking for, but you can find some healing there.